manthamia
January 19th, 2010, 01:19 PM
I am 21 years old and I am married. My husband is 42 and has 3 kids. one of his 3 lives with us and her best friend is going through some rough times and we have asked to foster her. the DHS said that they will do a background check and investigate our life to see if it is fit to foster her. I nor my husband have any criminal backgrounds, we do make enough money and we have the room to support this child. We are both very good parents and are very nice people and we take good care of not only our home but everyone in it. The only thing that concerns me is the way I came to be with my husband and what a hurrican it caused. When i was young all the way till 18 I was in some bad homes and had a pretty rough life and was being abused. I had a hard time proving it when I was 17 and was made to live with the family till 18. When i was almost 18 I started talking to who is now my husband, our family had known each other from similar activities we did. He knew about how hard i had it at home and wished to help me. So he told me that when I turned 18 I could move into his camper in his yard and rent it while i went to college and stuff so that way I could save money to soon get an apartment. When I moved out NO ONE believed that there was nothing there except friendship. it caused some troubles nothing legally just with people. my husband (lets call him Fred) Fred had seperated with his wife about a year before I was 18. When I moved into his camper they were in the middle of a horrid divorce. It was about a year before "fred" and I even really dated. A lot of people had and still do have issues with our age difference and even though we never once broke the law we still had some nasty rumors spred about us. "fred"'s divorse was nasty. she fought so hard and was horrible through it all... including just horrible to me and was baically the base of all the rumors. it took them 3 years to finalalize it (*sigh* hard battle for the kids) now that that is final and things settled my husband and I married and everyone seemes to have settled down(esspecially now that I am older no one very much cares about our ages anymore) But what I am worried about is that even though things are in the past and havent been really approuched for about a year now.... I am afriad that if they start poking at other people in our life like "fred's" ex that it would blow up and we wouldn't be accepted... and this poor girl would be tossed into a family she doesn't know.....what do you guys think?