Disrupting a placement

[flapping jaw]

We are currently discerning about whether or not to disrupt our FC placement of 6 weeks. Would welcome any input or advice.

Child has needs which we don't feel well suited to meet...behavioral issues too. Child is a toddler.

We are plugging child in to resources, such as speech therapy, therapeutic daycare/preschool, but just need advice from FP who have BTDT.

Thanks!

[sbeaton]

Unless all resources have been exhausted terminating a placement is usually a touchy subject with CPS. My experience has been most children, regardless of behavioural or emotional needs settle into a home, although some may take a little longer that others depending on their issues and the home environment....you might need a little more patience than you’re used to pulling out of yourself. If there are other children in the home that has to be considered as it may cause significant disruption...there is often a 'domino' effect on other children.

If the child is still with you (I'm posting 2 weeks after your post) try to work with the team of people already in your reach...someone should be able to provide you with suggestions/strategies, maybe even some training to help both of you out.

I had a teen placed in my home that often came home under the influence of either a drug or alcohol. She was a new to our home and for the most part respected the rules. The issue was with the younger children who were afraid of people who drank...for obvious reasons. If I'd had a home of teens only, we could have worked with the situation. However, the discomfort of the younger children grew and in their best interest the teen was moved.

Being honest with yourself is very important. It's not uncommon for a foster parent to feel a disconnect with a child due to the (sometimes) overwhelming needs. A child often senses this and it will become a constant struggle...nobody is benefiting in that situation.


Good luck with your decision.

[Nanna]

It is wonderful that you are making sure the child is getting all the resources he/she may need. If it was me, I would not give the child up. I would stick it out. It is a big transition for the child being removed from the home, regardless of the situation. You stated the child is a toddler. The child may also be suffering frm separation anxiety. I am also a preschool teacher. My heart really goes out to this child. I will pray for you and your family and I do hope that you hang in their and give this toddler all the love and patience that you can. The child is scared and probably don't understand what is happening and why he is there. God Bless you and the child.