Would we qualify????

[INA13]

I am a vicitm of domestic violence by my ex. I was a single mother for 7 years before finding the love of my life. Yet my children were sexually abused by theri older brother in theri father's home. I reported it and got the children taken from me and put in the fathers home. They said I was not telling the truth, but he confessed to it. I was never charged with anything and have never had my rights terminated!!! When the 17 year old was convicted CS and the gardian at litem asked to be removed form the case even thought they promised to put the children back with me. So they tucked tail and ran knowing they made a hugh mistake. I have tried to get them abck but there has not been a change of cercumstances. All the court papers say is that I went aginst a court order when I took my three year old daughter to Children's HOspital when she came home form her fathers with vagianl brusing and swelling and then recatl bleeding. I followed the safty plan put in place by the SW and the gaurdian at litem and they still took them away from my care. They never addressed that she had a discharge diagnosis of sexual abuse! The courts do not allow my children out of the county of which this happened out of fear someone else will tell someone. The court order still stands that no one is allowed to report known or suspected child abuse and or neglect. Bad situation. I live in another state and go every other weekend to see my children. I have never been accused of hurting them or neglecting them or had my rights terminated. Will this hurt me and my husband becoming foster parents??? I have many home studies I paid for out of my own pocket as to why they took them from me, that worker and the childrens counselor along with my phycological eval said I should had not had them taken away or been condemed for protecting my children. We just started classes and yet to have our home study. I am dreading of telling them all this becasue no one believes it till they see the papers from court and medical stuff. I am always feeling like no one thinks I am a good mom even though I know I am and am very good with kids. I even babysited for a SW for years. Soo waht do you think?

[Nanna]

Wow, it would be best to tell the truth. The State do a background check and if its documented, they will know! Anyone, whoever, know your situation, probably will call child protective services when they see you with the foster children. I am not judging who is telling the truth, all I am saying is, it will be in your best interest to let DSS know the situation.

[cuzimthebaby]

In our training they said if you leave out something and it comes up later, you will be automatically shut down or told NO! They would rather you be an honest person about your past and they will see where it goes.
I would think due to the nature of the situation that you would probably not be able to foster, but thats just how I see it.
I too am not judging you, who ever wrote the order that no one could report abuse is just insane in my thoughts, I know there is more to the story but thats just scary!

Denise

[peggyb101]

Wow, that is a really bizarre story! Anyways, I am guessing that you guys will not qualify due to the problems that the states have had with bad foster parents. They are probably not going to be willing to put their butts on the line...just like your previous social worker and guardian ad lidem. The only way I can see you would qualify is to go back to the state your kids are in, get a lawyer and clear your name. Like the others I am not judging you but I think we should be honest with you as well. Good luck and I wish you and your kids well!