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cmdoppler
May 23rd, 2008, 10:33 AM
Hi, my husband and I want to be foster parents.
We currently have our own 3 children. Sarah will be 5 in August, Jacob is 3 and 1/2, and Cain is 18 months. They are the biggest joy in my life.
I always wanted to be a mom.

8 months ago I had an unexpected pregnancy and it turned out to be ectopic and broke my heart. I lost my left tube.
Then I decided to get my remaining tube tied because I feel like if we had our own 4th child that we would less likely to help others and I would like to make a difference. I felt like (even though I wanted another child) that was the most unselfish decision I could make. I had surgery last tuesday (May 13th).

We currently live in a (huge) 3 bedroom apartment. Our boys share a room.

My passion is children. Before we moved here (in March) I did in home daycare in our apartment. I watched a 4 year old girl and a 9 month old special needs boy in our home. I also worked in 2 different daycare centers in the infant rooms, I really love babies and that was always my preference.
I have also worked in a nursing home and in a few kitchens and currently in a hotel on weekends and my husband works construction. (I call it my housewife resume).

I would like to foster an infant, I have the most experience with babies and I feel like a baby would best work with our family dynamics.

We would be open to the possibility of adoption.

Not sure what else to say, I have not done any classes, we are not sure if we would meet the requirements at this time (financially). But I like to learn and be well informed and want to keep the dream alive.

One more note, my mother had me a month before she turned 16 and was in foster care at the time of my birth and it was a good experience for her, she still keeps in contact with her foster parents.

swestmd
June 3rd, 2008, 06:19 PM
By your story, it seems to me you are doubtful about your qualifications to become a foster parent. All most counties are looking for is willingness, a home (or apartment!) and financial stability...not wealth by any means. In other words, what's stopping you? Foster children can sleep in the same room as your other children...they just have to be of the same sex. Girls with girls, boys with boys. At least in my county bunk beds are not allowed. You needn't have any childcare experience at all, they don't care about that. Just a desire to provide a child a stable, loving home. Good luck.