A concerning question? Help?

[datherton2000]

I am starting foster parenting classes this month. I have 3 children of my own 25 and 21 (both are married) and my 17 year old still at home. We have a huge 2 story, 4 bedroom house in a quiet area. I love children and believe that being a mother is my single most achievement in life. My children are all boys, and I also had all brothers. I would love to take that leap of faith to foster to a girl. Is there a big difference between fostering boys and girls? It is my fear that girls tend to be more "catty" do you know what I mean? I just know that through God I can truly make a difference in a child's life and cant wait to get started.

[CAFostermom]

Fostering a child will have it's own set of challenges, just like you've probably seen with your own biological kids. We had both a foster son and foster daughter. We noticed that the girl tended to be a drama queen (hair had to be perfect, etc). but this may be an artifact of her upbringing and not due to her XX chromosome. Some foster girls are tomboys. It just depends. It was fun to have a girl though. I am a tomboy, so she was a nice balance. It took me a awhile to acclimate to being more "feminine." She loved having tea parties and she and my husband used to have tea parties with all the stuffed animals.

It's great that you are opening up your heart and home to these kids! I wish you the best of luck.

[ThePowerMan]

We have had both, too. We currently have a 17 year old girl. SHe has really been a blessing to our family. I worried about the "catty" part, too. But it has really turned out pretty good. We have had our ups and downs but I am proud to say she is a part of our family now. ANd she will always be a part of our family.

Boys......the oldest we had has been 9 yrs old. Boys are boys.

I tell you......once they feel loved and respected, they learn to try to fit in our family and try to do what is expected. I can't say they all come into our home perfect and they don't leave perfect. But they leave a changed with their heads up and feeling like they are somebody. Just show them love and you'll be ok.